The bully and the bullied... are they the same person?

 

   So today's post is going to be a little different. I'm going to use 'gifs' to make things interesting, and easier to understand.
  
   My post today is about bullying. We all know what bullying is. We all know that there are many different kinds of bullying. But do we really know who the bully is? Who's the bully truly is your life? Believe it or not, but you just might be your own bully.

 

  While I was in school (mostly Jr. High) I was bullied. Now it wasn't that bad. But it did hurt. I was bullied because... yup, you guessed it, my weight. Like I've said before, I've ALWAYS been the 'bigger guy'. Not only did I know this already, but I had many people tell it to my face also. I've been called the classic names, like fat...big... etc. But I 've got to say, the ones that hurt the most, were people trying to be funny about it. For example... I remember when I was in Jr. High, someone said that when I walk down the hall, I should walk as close to the wall as possible because I take up to much room. Or another example, I went to a Halloween dance in Jr. High, and I dressed up in one of those costumes that has a fan in the back and it blows the costume up into something big. I was a plumber. I thought it was the funniest costume ever. It made it look like I was 600 LBS, I had a plumber butt, and the shirt looked like it was 3 sizes to small. I walked into the dance, still thinking this was the best costume ever, and then the first thing someone said to me was... "Rob, why didn't you dress up?"

 

You hear these words, and you try and act like nothing is wrong.

You laugh along with them.

 

On the outside, you look like this...

 

 

 But really, on the inside you look like this...

 

 

  Everyone has these days. But really, what are a few words? Do these words really define who you are? Well, the answer to that is... only if you let them.

  In my drawing class this week, we talked about this very thing. You are your own bully. You are the one who chooses to have these words effect you. It's true. We can choose to let it define us, or we can chose to let it go. My drawing teacher said that if we sit and focus on all the negative thoughts we have, whether it be about ourselves, or others, those negative thoughts will add up. Here, think of it this way... Imagine that every negative thought you think is a penny. One penny doesn't do very much... but then they begin to add up. Soon you have 20 pennies. 60 pennies. 200 pennies. 3,000 pennies. You get the picture... After awhile, you are swimming in pennies or in other words, you are swimming in your negative thoughts. 

 

 

 

    My teacher then went on to explain, that the more negative thoughts we have, the more negative, sad, and depressed we become. It's our choice. Yes, others may call you names, but its you and you alone who decides to have it effect you. My teacher then went around the class, and we had to say one positive thing about ourselves out loud. I was scared to do this... but the entire class did it, and so did I. Let me tell you.... it might be hard to give yourself a compliment, but it makes everything that much better. It works. So that's what I want you to do right now, I want you to give yourself a compliment. OUT LOUD! Say it. Say... you are creative, kind, beautiful, pretty, smart, outgoing... Whatever you want to say. Say it now. No joke. Out loud. If anyone hears you, and asks what you are doing, just smile, and compliment them also. It works. No more negative thought, only positive.

 

 

 

   Here is a really awesome story, I don't know if you guys have read it before, but it goes along really well with this post. So I'm going to share it... 

 

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ..."How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

 

 

  So I hope this post made sense. What I'm trying to say here is, don't be your own bully. People are going to judge, and call you names, what ever they may be, but it's your choice to let them go or not. The only person who gets the right to define who you are is yourself. When someone calls you a name, don't accepted it, you need to reject it. Prove them wrong. Show them who you really are. You are a person. A person with feelings. You are a person who is beautiful.

 

 

 

Don't be a bully.

Don't judge.

Think positive.

 

 

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  Alright, now for my weight loss. Well, this week I've lost 2.6 LBS. FINALLY!! I'm so happy about this. I've also lost about 3 inches around my belly since the start. After two bad weeks of gaining, I am now back in the 60s., which is good. I'm still doing LOTS of swimming with my friend Chase. We go at least 4 times a week for about 2 hours of swimming. We even sometimes lift weights and bike or run before. I can feel and see a different. I feels more toned and muscular, and healthier. It's taking sometime, but I can see and feel a difference fat wise also. I'm not giving this swimming thing up. It's seriously the best thing that has happened to me, to bad I didn't think of it before. Swimming is such a great workout, and I seriously recommend it. GO SWIMMING! My goal this week is just to lose. I don't really care how much, as long as I lose something.

 

 

271.6 - 2.6 =

269